Here’s some advice; if you’re married, or in a relationship, and the person you’re in it with says something such as “I love you but I just need some time and space”, start crying.
And packing.
Immediately!
It’s OVER.
Don’t believe any of that I-love-you-and-want-to-get-spend-the-rest-of-my-life-with-you-but-don’t-know-if-I-can malarkey.
What they are actually saying is-I’m still attached to you in some insecure way I don’t fully understand, but I want the remainder of my life, beginning right now, to occur as many miles away from you as I can get.
This is the Need/Time/Space Phenomena and what it means is that you are no longer a necessity, you might already be a hindrance, and you’re surely about to be replaced.
Fact-A very, very small percentage of marriages survive a separation.
Fact-A very, very large percentage of 2nd marriages end in divorce.
And no, not because divorcing gets easier the more times you do it.
It’s not a matter of acclimatising oneself.
It’s because those involved don’t address the personal issues that caused the end of their first marriage.
They take the new and unimproved version of themselves into the 2nd marriage and repeat the mistakes of the first.
How do I know this?
Personal experience.
And I Google.
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Drawing
That There’s The Cow That Made Me Weep
70x100cm
Black ink on white paper
